" Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none." William Shakespeare had a way with words.

Dating saga woes. I changed the age settings on the dating app so that I would have a chance to possibly connect with someone close by.  And, hallelujah I connected with someone who lives here in Fairfield so I won't post his photo out of respect for him and his family. He is  a little older than me okay so he is 6 years older than me. Still, he looked nice in the photo with his grandchildren so I went for it and sent him a 🩷. Low and behold a heart came back, we had matched. We exchanged phone numbers and made a date to meet for lunch at a local Mexican restaurant. One of my favorites. This is looking hopeful. We texted for a few days before the actual date just to get to know each other better. He asked if I like Sushi and began to tell me about his favorite Sushi place. I lied and said, "Oh, um yeah I like Sushi." Jude! you know you hate Sushi what are you doing. Simply, I didn't want him to be disapointed in me already. I would cross the Sushi bridge when need be.

Day of the date and I very nervously dress to impress casual but cool. Sun glasses on cuz that is the way this girls rocks. We meet walking about to the door and get seated. I can already get a sense he likes to be in charge and he constantly looks for our server. Then he whips out his hearing aides out of both ears, lays them on the table and proceeds to replace the batteries. Dude! 

Waitress, waitress, I need a double Margarita please with a shot of Tequila on the side!

Stick a fork in me I am done!

Early in my dating online experience I came across a gentlman from Napa. "Hey girl you are from Napa too." I said to my little old self.

He is a little younger but my ex was five years younger than me. Well, we know how that ended but that is a story for another day. So this guy is cute and his bio says he will cook his girlfriend dinner including dessert. Well that is right up my foodie alley. Plus did I say he is from NAPA!

Something about him seems so familiar but I can not put my finger on it. I send out that ole heart emoji again and he sends a message back asking would I like to meet. We arrange a date for a local eatery. He is coming my way so that is great. I am just over the hills and around the bend. Look no further you have found the one!

The morning of our date as I am drying my hair I hear that familiar beep of an incoming text message and much to my disappointment my date has to cancel but he does ask for a rain check. Oh rats..

Long story short we finally connect again a couple of weeks later which is great cuz I can't get this guy out of my head. He's the one I just know it. Again we make a date to meet for lunch. I walk up to the restaurant and he walks out to greet me with a huge hug. Okay off to a good start. We sit and the conversation once again is easy. "We must know some of the same people," I say as we both went to school in Napa. He smiles and says, "yeah we probably do." He tells me about his life as a chef that has traveled out of state and out of country. As a foodie this sounds great he can cook dinner. I am happy to do the dishes. Let's set a date to get married.👰

Still how do I know him. And, why am I so drawn to him.

The afternoon is moving on so we agree it's time to leave he grabs my hand and walks me to my car where we hug and smooch a bit more. Well it has been a good little while for me but this is feeling really nice.

Nothing better than a warm hug. 

Later I text another thank you and he texts back saying he has most evenings free if I would like to get together again. Well duh!

Oh shoot BTW I forgot to even ask his last name how dumb is that. So I text ask his last name and he tells me and boom it hits me! I know that name but I gotta get confirmation so I put it out to the girls. Ya know the girls I have loved since our school days. Cuz they are waiting to hear about the date anyway.

Oh, that is so and so's youngest brother. OMG now I know why he seemed so familiar I went to school with his two older brothers. One who has since sadly passed away. And he totally reminds me of that brother. He (the brother) was always so sweet to me in school and we would flirt a bit. It is all coming full circle. 

I text him right away,"OMG I went to school with your brothers."

He texts back, "oh oh." hmm...what does that even mean.

Next day I text him a good morning and he reciprocates with a good morning smile emoji. A few hours later while I am having my weekly cup of coffee with my good friend Cathy I get a text from him.

"Hi Judith!"

"I think you're very nice but I don't feel a connection for me. Good luck out there. Bye."

OH boy what just happened. For other reasons that I won't state hear I will just say I probably dodged a bullet.

Moving on and forward. Catch you on the flip side.